You Can Stop Limiting Beliefs & Discover Your Potential
“We all have great potential and untold wealth within…We are born to win, yet soon we are conditioned to lose.” – TH Hoisington, If You Think You Can!
We all have things we wish to accomplish – things that are well within our capacity to achieve – yet somehow we fall short, or perhaps never try. Our limiting beliefs stop us from achieving all that we could. A limiting belief is any belief that leads to dis-empowering thoughts and actions. For example, you may believe that you do not qualify for a promotion because you have not had enough experience. Your dis-empowering thought is, “Well I do not qualify anyway, so I will not ask.” This leads you to take no action. You do not apply for the promotion nor do you do anything to get qualified for it. You remain with the status quo. This in turn leads to fear, which results in another limiting belief, the belief that you are incapable of change. The result is learned helplessness, which only reinforces your limiting beliefs.
You do not have to allow limiting beliefs to make your life smaller or less fulfilling. When you find your hidden strengths, use them to defeat limiting beliefs.
Find Your Hidden Strengths
What hidden strengths do you believe you have in you? These strengths may spring from the values we learned as children, at home or in school. Many of the traditional values that have kept people and families together have been lost to the “hurry up” pace of our society. In many ways, our society has slipped from the moorings that have made us great. We all have seeds of greatness within each of us. We need only to nurture them.
As you find your hidden strengths, you will be on the road to realizing your dream or passion. However, you may discover roadblocks that are keeping you from it. To help you discover the obstacles to realizing your dream, answer the questions below.
- What limiting beliefs do you have about yourself that stop you from realizing your dream or passion?
- What messages did you receive as a child that helped to create these limiting belief?
- What messages do you receive now from people you regularly interact with that reinforce these beliefs?
- What messages do you continue to give yourself that reinforce these beliefs?
Turn limitation into strength…
Many people have limiting beliefs that stand in the way of the changes they want to make. Regardless of whether these beliefs come from your past or current experiences, you can turn these limitations into strengths. You cannot change the messages you received, but you can change the way you interpret them. Going forward, you may have some influence over the messages you receive in the present by changing with who you interact or how you interact. You also choose how you interpret these messages. Ultimately, you do have direct control over the messages you give yourself.
Your limiting belief may be based on fear rather than reality. F.E.A.R. is commonly interpreted as an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. You can replace fear with faith and hope. You can decide whether the message is valid and contains corrections you need to make, or if it is a dis-empowering message based on fear that says you cannot change. If the message contains a needed correction, you can move forward with faith and hope to make that correction. Your choice is to be grateful for the message, humbly accept it and apply the correction.
Tommy learned early in life that he could get attention by acting out. His behaviors were often annoying to others and people would reject him and give him negative messages. Because of his need for attention, he would act out in other ways, not realizing that this was the very cause of his rejection. This continued into his teen years and early adult life. One day, a trusted friend pointed out to Tommy that he had many good qualities, but some of his annoying habits were causing people to reject him. Tommy began to look at how he was experiencing this rejection because of what he was doing. He looked for better ways to meet his need for attention. He asked his friend to discreetly point out when he was seeking undue attention. Realizing that he needed a replacement behavior. Tommy chose to meet his need for attention by contributing and adding value to a situation. Over time, he learned self-correction and began receiving positive messages and recognition. He had turned his limitations into strengths.
Once you have recognized your limiting beliefs, the next step is to find hidden strengths to defeat those limiting beliefs, which will be the topic of my next post.
This is an excerpt from my book “Embracing Change From the Inside Out”
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